(A cadre of smart, talented, inspiring, altogether rockin' ladies...who also happen to be forty, from top: Charlotte Gainsbourg photographed by Paul Jasmin, Sofia Coppola via RDuJour, Phoebe Philo at her London atelier photographed by Annie Leibovitz, Christene Barberich, Editor-in-Chief of Refinery29.com, Cat Power photographed by David Black.)
I tend to take the making of resolutions/intentions/goals at the start of each year pretty seriously. I ponder, consider, noodle... Let's just say I put a lot of thought into the whole enterprise.
Sadly, my that focus doesn't always carry over to actually executing them. Don't get me wrong, many years I do really well, even creating regular "check points" throughout the year to get a sense of my progress. But last year, well, last year was abysmal.
Starting a new job, I knew it was going to be a crazy, upside down year, so I went with an easy "intentions" approach, listing the things I wanted to do more and less of in 2012. Specifically I wanted to be more attentive, drink more green tea, take more ballet classes, and unplug more (among other things). I also wanted to eat less sugar, buy less stuff, be less busy/over-scheduled, etc...
Friends, I failed on every single one of those things. All. Of. Them. I'm not proud.
So this year I'm feeling the need to make up for my failures. Also this year (on December 7 to be exact) I'm turning 40.
Coming up on a milestone birthday, whether it's 25 or 40, just begs for some sort of massive self improvement, don't you think? So I'm going to try and do just that...you know you're basic total life overhaul. No biggie.
Here's the deal, from now - December, I'm going to focus on accomplishing a single goal each month through a variety of experiences/assignments/tasks, etc... in an attempt to become the best possible version of myself in "mind, body, and spirit" before I turn 40.
The end goal isn't about trying to achieve some sort of perfection. Perfection is boring. Especially that ideal we seem to be currently obsessed with in America -- reality TV star buffed and polished, all straight glossy hair and white Chiclet teeth and bronzed Barbie body. I want none of that action. Flawed and complex is just infinitely more interesting. This project is just about being the best possible version of my flawed self. Being healthier and more balanced. Treading more lightly on the earth, being a more present, attentive, loving wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend, achieving some balance (what ever that looks like).
I'm not gonna lie, I'm scared...and it should be noted that I'm also very, very hungry due to the three day cleanse/detox that I'm currently in the midst of as part of my January goal (more on that later), but I'm also excited. I mean, what's the worst that could happen (don't answer that).
Here are my goals for the year...
(*Update: I inadvertently left off February's goal, which is "Improve My Fitness." Or maybe, given my incredibly strong dislike of "the exercising," I left it off on purpose...I'm not saying for sure. Also note the edit to August.)
- January: Revamp my diet
- February: Improve my fitness
- March: Buff and polish
- April: Green my home
- May: Create less waste
- June: Unplug (and read)
- July: Learn a new skill
- August: Attempt more inner peace (As opposed to the incredibly lofty, "Find Inner Peace")
- September: Overhaul my wardrobe
- October: Strengthen my marriage
- November: Elevate my kitchen skills
- December: Nurture my relationships
I'm planning on posting details of what I'm doing, how it's going, and what I'm learning a few times each month. Wish me luck.