I've read a couple of things recently that resonated with me in a huge way...The first was a passage from an interview with the genius Anna Quindlen on Momfilter:
"I think having bright lines and boundaries really worked for us, that it made our kids strong and secure because they were clear on expectations and responsibilities. But I wish I had been better able to combine that with letting things go a little bit. Nobody really needs a bath every night. Nobody really needs a balanced meal for every meal. I should have let the freak flag fly a bit more. It’s hard to be a Type A mom. I wish I could have been a bit more B plus, for my sake and their own."
image via moomah journal
Then there was this quote on the (really fantastic) Moomah journal, by founder, Tracey Stewart:
"Parenting is an incredibly stressful job fraught with anxiety... Too often parenting sites propose an unreal picture of perfection that is impossible to attain...The more we find relaxation, inspiration and laughter the more we can delight in the absolute fulfillment of being a parent."
I think a lot about this idea of "mellow parenting"... I believe with ever fiber of my being that creativity flourishes and the magic happens when you let kids be bored, explore, make messes and just sort of ramble about a bit, and yet, at my core, I am a type A mom. Big time. Art projects inevitably begin with a mental assessment of how hard they'll be to clean up, I still tend to overschedule (despite my continued attempts at laziness) and, more often than not, I'm far more uptight than I'd like to be.
So Stewart and Quindlen's wise words were a good reminder, a re-set if you will. Alongside the swimming and ping pong and outdoor dinners I have lined up for the summer, I'm also going shoot for embracing "type B plus". I'm going to raise the freak flag a bit. Who's with me?